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I define Equality (everyone gets the same support or tools) vs. Equity (everyone gets the support they need to access the system).
I then apply this to the school system (IEP/IPRC): Your child doesn’t need the same accommodation as the next child; they need a tailored accommodation that recognizes their unique intersectional needs (e.g., AuDHD, race, disability).
I discuss the role of the parent as the equity champion in the school environment.
I explain how Advocate-Alliance helps you secure the equitable resources your child is entitled to.
If you’re a caregiver navigating the complex world of the school system (IEPs, IPRCs, accommodations, and behaviour Plans), you’ve likely heard the word “fair” until you’re exhausted. You’ve probably been told that granting certain accommodations would be “unfair” to other students.
But here is the core truth that fuels my work at Advocate-Alliance: In the world of neurodiversity and disability, seeking equality is often a recipe for failure.
It’s time to stop fighting for “fairness” and start demanding equity.
Section 1: Equality vs. Equity — Understanding the Difference
To be an effective Equity Champion for your child, you must first be able to articulate the difference between these two concepts:
1. Equality (The Starting Line)
Equality means everyone receives the exact same support, tools, or resources regardless of their starting point or specific needs.
- In the classroom, this would look like giving every student 15 extra minutes on a test, regardless of whether they have ADHD-related processing speed deficits, a physical disability, or no accommodation needs at all.
- This results in those who already have an advantage being able to maintain it, while those with systemic barriers remain excluded or undersupported.
2. Equity (The Destination)
Equity means every individual receives the specific, tailored support, tools, or resources they need to overcome systemic and environmental barriers, ensuring they have the same opportunity to achieve the same successful outcome as their peers.
- In the classroom, this looks like providing a student with a significant Auditory Processing Disorder (APD) the option to record all lectures and receive written notes. In contrast, a student with a mobility issue receives a desk relocation and a ramp. It’s not equal; it’s necessary.
Section 2: Why Your Child Needs a Tailored Equity Plan
Your neurodivergent child (with AuDHD, ASD, or a complex disability) is not a generic case study. They are an individual at the intersection of unique challenges:
- Does their AuDHD lead to sensory-induced meltdowns that require a safe, quiet space?
- Does their racial identity or language difference mean they are already subject to unconscious bias from staff?
- Does their rare genetic condition mean their energy fluctuates dramatically, requiring a reduced course load?
When fighting for accommodations, you can’t just ask for “a quiet space.” You must demand the equitable resource—a low-light, low-smell, pre-approved sensory room break available immediately, because that is what they need to access the curriculum.
If you request only what is “equal” or standard, you are asking your child to fit their complex intersectional reality into a one-size-fits-all box designed for simplicity, not success.
Section 3: The Parent as the Equity Champion
You are your child’s most crucial advocate (if they cannot advocate for themselves or are unable to), but more specifically, you are their EQUITY CHAMPION. This role requires a mindset shift from pleading to demanding what is rightfully necessary.
The role of the Equity Champion is to:
- Define the Barrier: Identify the specific way the environment (the noisy hallway, the fluorescent lights, the teacher’s communication style) disables your child.
- Define the Solution: Propose the exact, tailored accommodation that dismantles that barrier (the equity).
- Cite the Necessity: Back your demand with policy, not just emotion. Remind the system that providing equitable access is its legal and ethical obligation.
When you walk into an IPRC or IEP meeting armed with the language of equity and necessity, you change the dynamic. You are no longer asking for a favour; you are enforcing a requirement.
Section 4: How Advocate-Alliance Secures Equitable Resources
At Advocate-Alliance, my coaching and advocacy support are fundamentally rooted in this equity-first mindset. I use my professional expertise and my deep lived experience as a parent of ND children to ensure you achieve the tailored support your child is entitled to.
I help you:
- Translate Needs: Convert challenging behaviours into specific, articulable needs that justify complex accommodations.
- Target Solutions: Move beyond generic suggestions and formulate the precise, equitable interventions required for your child’s unique intersectional profile.
- Utilize Funding Strategically: Ensure that, if funding (such as SSAH) is available, it is strategically allocated to services—like mine—that directly build your capacity to champion equity at home and in the community.
Stop fighting for the same box. Let’s fight for the right ramp, the right lighting, and the right resources for your family’s success.
Ready to trade equality for equity? ➡️ Book Your Free Discovery Call today to learn how to master your advocacy and secure the equitable resources your child needs.
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